The past two years I have gone out of my way to attend what was first Momentum Con and now Catalyst Con East. This year, I had thought very little about it. I haven’t been posting on my blog much because of the new job and depression and such, so I didn’t feel it was right to go. However, a quick look at Twitter lately and it was all people were talking about. I decided to check out the guest list and was blown away to see Betty Dodson is giving the closing Keynote. While I don’t agree with everything she said, she was one of the first sexuality experts that I started reading and watching on YouTube when I got my blog going and it would be an amazing opportunity to see her (and possibly meet her) in person. That being said… the hotel is expensive along with the full weekend registration, though I am much closer this year. So I sought out to find someone to room with. Luckily I was able to find someone to room share and I am happy to say…
If you are going to be there, please let me know so we can meet and/or catch up. There are so many people I only see once a year at this.
You may or may not know, but March 8th is International Women’s Day. LELO is celebrating by hosting an awesome giveaway. By using Pinterest, Twitter, or Facebook (or even all three) you can enter to win some fun new toys. The more people that enter, the more toys they will give away. For every additional 100 people that enter, another set of toys will be given away (i.e. if 200 people enter, 2 of each toy will be given away). Check out LELO Women’s Day Giveaway Contest.
So what all are up for grabs?
The Ida is a premium couples’ massager worn during sex and combines vibrations and rotation, offering new sensations for both partners.
The Ora is LELO’s new sensual massager to offer long, seductive swirls and intense pulsations, such as during oral sex.
The HULA Beads rotate and vibrate at the same time. Completely remote-controlled, they have multiple uses for fun in the bedroom or discreet fun elsewhere.
And just in case that isn’t enough LELO for you, you can use my special discount code GEEK14 to save 20% at LELO.com. Check out LELO’s best sellers and save!
And stay tuned for my own LELO Women’s Day giveaway later this week!
I haven’t been posting much (okay… like none) in a while, so the silliness that is online dating has been building up. I stumbled across with this one profile that I just had to share with you guys.
“Just cut to the chase and sit on my face.
I’m not going to lie to you or hide my intentions. Just want friends, really good friends who meet each other’s physical needs and who also do other stuff outside. It takes a lot for me to open up I’ve been burned so much and I’m tired of it. Don’t lie to yourself give me a chance and you’ll be well pleasured I promise. I prefer someone kinky! Anal swallowing threesomes that sort of thing!!”
The first line made me snicker. It rhymes! I wonder if he did that on purpose…
After that it’s to the point, though it does give a good example of why punctuation (particularly commas) are important. Anal swallowing threesomes. I know what the three are individually, but together… I just imagine someone’s ass swallowing up a group having a threesome and that’s more scary than anything else.
So my first big post back in the game is for a blog tour! I’ve never done a blog tour before, but it seems kind of neat. This blog tour is for the new book, The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys by Violet Blue and Charlie Glickman. Unfortunately due to moving and the like, I do not yet have my hard copy of the book, but I have been able to skim through a digital copy I was sent.
I was a little hesitant about the book, being as I have so many toys and I don’t feel like there is a ton left for me to learn. In scanning through the chapters, two chapters stood out to me and I skipped straight to them: Teledildonic Toys: Online Sex for Two and Sex Machines. I really enjoyed the discussion on Teledildonics and it’s given me some new things to look into and this seems like an important topic for couples, especially in long distance relationships. I did notice that the OhMiBod toy that works with skype was not mentioned in my quick read through. I do also like that this goes into just using a webcam and that area.
The sex machine chapter was very informative. I’ve never used one and have only seen the attachments that you use to convert a handheld saw into a fucksaw and a Synbian. This is probably where I learned the most and want to really dig into the chapter more.
I was really glad to see that this book includes more than just toys, including how to take care of your toys “Care and Feeding) and how to talk about using toys as a couple and just how to use them as a couple. There is even a section on kinkier toys, such as handcuffs and “more ouchy fun”. And don’t worry guys, there are some toys for you and a whole section on strap-ons.
Throughout the book there are grey scale sketch images that show what some of the toys and machines actually look like. However, it is not an image heavy book. The focus with the book is by far the information, not what the toys look like, etc. I think it could be helpful two versions of this book (or a series) where one is for beginners with actual pictures and another is for more advanced. This could also work well with a DVD showing couples using the toys as in each chapter. But perhaps I am just more of a visual creature than most.
Continue reading Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys Blog Tour
I’ve had several of these posts recently and not a lot of much else (especially reviews), but I’m going to start working on it. I’m going to try with at least one review a week and maybe some other posts.
As an update for what’s been happening with me, when I last posted an update, my classes were getting crazy and I just didn’t have the time and energy to put into the blog. Since then I have graduated (big WOOT!). I scored a summer job, which was meh. It made money to cover some rent and bills, but it wasn’t going anywhere. During that time I was struggling to find a full time job. All of that left me extremely depressed, lonely, and thus the lack of sex drive, reviewing, and the drive to post.
In good news though, I have scored a full time job. It was extremely last minute so the blog got completely put on hold. I moved, I started working, and I’ve been working for a little over a month. Now it’s time to ease myself back into this part of my life. I have still been struggling with some depression and loneliness. I even considered stopping reviewing all together, but it’s been a big part of my life for so long. Plus the local communities tend to know me as sextoygeek, I can’t disappoint them can I? Plus… it is kinda fun :-p
Anyway… I’m going to keep this going for a bit longer. With a full time job, it’s not likely that it will be posting as much as I have in the past, but I will be posting.
So another one of the fetishes on Fetlife that I tend to get a lot of messages about (they could also just see my username and read my profile) are sex toys.
“I too love the toys , also not into all the things you listed as dislikes. I’m similar in that I like some sub things that I just consider pleasurable like receiving strapons. If you’d like a friendly kinky guy to chat with via email let me know. I’m Steve. I love taking pics with my toys too if youd ever like to see.
Have a great new year!”
I’ve noticed a trend in some messages on Fet that guys will specifically say “Oh hey… I don’t like the things on your hard limits list too!”. I suppose it’s their way of trying to say they won’t do something I’m not into. But really, it’s weird to be with someone who only likes and dislikes the same things you do. But anyway… this guy was brave enough to put in a personal email address and offer to send me pictures. He was also sweet enough to wish me a good new year, the perfect way to end a message after you tell someone you want to show them a picture of you with a toy up your ass, right?
“Hi there. I’m Shawn and I would love to chat and get to know about your experiences. Hearing about your sex toys would be awesome!
We could even RP. I look forward to hearing from you! :)”
Yeah… because asking for me to essentially tell you about how I use my sex toys isn’t creepy at all, then asking me to RP? Sorry I don’t think that’s listed on my profile…
Today I have a adorably sketched position from WeWomen.com, part of their 100 sex positions post.
For this position, the giving partner should sit on a chair or stool and their partner should straddle them. The receiving partner can leave back to rest her had on a cushion or on the floor, which will require a lot of flexibility and some strength. The giving partner can take control of thrusting and allows them to explore their partners exposed body. The reviving partner may want to wrap their legs around their partners back or hold on to them for more support and the giving partner can always help support and hold the receiver.
This position will take take strength, flexibility, and a slow steady pace. If you are looking for something a little less challenging be sure to check out the other 99 positions listed on the post.
Back to OkCupid for another old message. One thing that I have learned on OkCupid and in writing these Dating Fails is that Indian guys apparently love me. Even if they are still in India.
“Hi, how are you?
I like your profile, and I really like some one like you, if you are ok with me , I am here for you , I am also happy to see you but I am far away from you, thanks for your reply
You are sooooo…. Beautiful”
He really likes someone like me and he’s here for me. He also thanked me for my reply before I sent one. I’m just curious as to how guys on the other side of the world find me and what about my profile makes them send a message?
Time yet again for your bi-month dose of hunk to get you through the humpday. Today we have a guy who has changed his body frequently for movie roles. You may know him from The Dark Knight Rises as Bane or the super buff Tommy in Warrior. Whatever your preference, he has a look for you to love.
Just a regular looking (and handsome) guy
Super buff… /lick
A slimmer, but cute version, plus look at that grin!
Still not a lot of messages so I’ve been digging through messages on my Fetlife to see what I can find. I discovered a few months ago when I have certain fetishes listed on my profile, that tends to draw a lot of weird attention. If you’re familiar with Fetlife, you’ll know when you click on a fetish, it shows you a random 6 or so people who also list it and you can click to view more. Apparently whenever my profile was up, I would get a slew of messages from guys about this one particular fetish, pegging. Literally I would get three messages on the topic with in an hour or so. Now I’ve never even tried pegging, it was in my curious about list, but I’d still get them, and of course these guys don’t look at profiles first.
“I read on your profile it says that you are interested in pegging. I’ve never tried it but i’ve been curious recently. Maybe you and me could have some fun together? I’m 5’11″ 135 lbs if you were curious.”
Suuuure you did… If you read my profile then you’d probably be able to put together that your heigh and weight aren’t going to woo me over.
“i wish i was closer-id love to help try out strapons and such lol. we need more women like you :)”
I didn’t realize I was looking for help to try out strapons, or that I’d want help from you. My question though is who is this “we” and what are “women like me”? I don’t think the general populace needs or wants more strapon wielding women. (on a site note, this makes me think of Cards Against Humanity…. “Strapon woman was neither the hero we wanted nor needed”).
I know there were more, but I may have deleted them in rage… that can happen after the third of fourth message.